Relationships: 2009

Monday, December 07, 2009

Chinese peasant

A man named Sei Weng owned a beautiful mare which was praised far and wide. One day this beautiful horse disappeared. The people of his village offered sympathy to Sei Weng for his great misfortune. Sei Weng said simply, "That's the way it is."
A few days later the lost mare returned, followed by a beautiful wild stallion. The village congratulated Sei Weng for his good fortune. He said, "That's the way it is."

Some time later, Sei Weng's only son, while riding the stallion, fell off and broke his leg. The village people once again expressed their sympathy at Sei Weng's misfortune. Sei Weng again said, "That's the way it is."

Soon thereafter, war broke out and all the young men of the village except Sei Weng's lame son were drafted and were killed in battle. The village people were amazed as Sei Weng's good luck. His son was the only young man left alive in the village. But Sei Weng kept his same attitude: despite all the turmoil, gains and losses, he gave the same reply, "That's the way it is"

chinese peasant

I am leaving you till the next post with Richard Bach quote:

"The mark of your ignorance is the depth of your belief in injustice and tragedy. What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly."

Friday, December 04, 2009

A Night of Passion

Intimacy and passion in relationships is not only important but also healthy. Couples need to enjoy being together in an intimate way. When relationships are troubled, the last thing either person wants is to be sexual or passionate with each other. However, this is a part of the healing and rebuilding of the relationship and although it might be awkward in the beginning, it is crucial. Make your intimate time together special. Surprise your mate with a warm bubble bath, lighted candles, soft music, and a bottle of wine, or reserve a nice romantic evening at a local hotel to include a wonderful candlelit dinner, fine wine, and a beautiful room.

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Dinner Party

Start a new tradition of hosting a dinner party every other month or two and inviting several of you and your mateŝs friends. Set up board games that everyone will enjoy, have some light and lively music playing, and plan to have a blast. Spending time with friends in this kind of setting is a great way to reduce stress. When stress is low, couples get along better. This is a wonderful way to interact with each otherŝs friends as a couple.

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Lighten Up

Often when couples have gone through or are going through some bumpy spots in their relationship, things tend to get serious. It could be that there is a tremendous amount of tension or perhaps they are not sure what to say. Regardless of the reason, learn to lighten up. Do not take every comment, glance, or movement as a serious problem. If your mate makes a mistake, which you both will, let it go, or if appropriate, laugh about it. If you make a mistake, do not be afraid to poke fun at yourself. This will automatically start the process of tension breaking.

Communicate

When couples are having problems in a relationship, communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding relationships, just as communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind. Healing in the relationship cannot start until you talk. Make an agreement that you will talk about anything and everything and that you will listen, really listen. That does not mean that you will agree with everything, which is perfectly fine. However, if you do not agree, do not yell, rather, the two of you need to calmly discuss the issue and together, work out a solution. This is hard work but within a very short time, you will both feel much better, individually and as a couple.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Re-establish Old Traditions

If you and your mate had a tradition of some kind when you first got together, dust it off and breathe life back into it. Perhaps you met after work on Friday at the local pub for a drink, washed your cars together every Saturday morning, or attended church together on Sunday. Whatever it was, re-establish the tradition.

Predictability

If asking couples the factors involved in the demise of their relationship, one of the common responses is that everything in the relationship is so predictable. When rebuilding a relationship, do not be afraid of letting go of boredom. If you normally hate the fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting for hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and something cool to drink and go join them on the couch, or if your mate spends hours in the garden trying to make things look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it. When taking a walk with your mate, stop and give them a soft kiss, say, œI love you," and then keep walking. Take some chances and do the unexpected.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Re-establish Old Traditions

If you and your mate had a tradition of some kind when you first got together, dust it off and breathe life back into it. Perhaps you met after work on Friday at the local pub for a drink, washed your cars together every Saturday morning, or attended church together on Sunday. Whatever it was, re-establish the tradition.

couple traditions park

Predictability

If asking couples the factors involved in the demise of their relationship, one of the common responses is that everything in the relationship is so predictable. When rebuilding a relationship, do not be afraid of letting go of boredom. If you normally hate the fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting for hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and something cool to drink and go join them on the couch, or if your mate spends hours in the garden trying to make things look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it. When taking a walk with your mate, stop and give them a soft kiss, say, œI love you," and then keep walking. Take some chances and do the unexpected.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Needed Space

As important as it is to spend quality time together, it is equally important to give each other time to do something they like. If your mate loves to fish but you have no desire to bait a hook with little, slimy worms, or if you like to go to the casino but your mate would rather do something different, encourage each >other to take time apart. Try establishing a set time for this very purpose, if possible. For example, perhaps you could determine that every other Friday night is "singles" night. This is not a time to date other people, but to enjoy preferred activities. Remember that you have to place trust in your relationship. If you try this and then drill them, to see what they did, whom they were with, and where they went, then the exercise has failed.

No Debates

If you know that you and your mate have proven differences in opinion on certain subjects, avoid those subjects. As an example, if you are a Republican and your mate is a Democrat, politics should probably be avoided. As the two of you identify new topics that could cause a debate session, stop the conversation before it even gets started.

Filler Talk

If you are married, especially with children, break out of the habit of talking about nothing. Many times, families will be sitting around the dinner table and the conversation consists of, Do you like your carrots? or I wonder what is on TV tonight? Instead, change your strategy to include real questions, showing real interest. Replace the normal, œDid you have a good day at work? with œTell me what you did at work today. Even if you do not understand everything being said, listen with interest. It is not that you are so much interested in the work, but your mateŝs life.

Monday, November 02, 2009

The Power of Touch

When a child is ill, doctors will tell you that it is proven that a simple, loving touch of a parent can quickly pull the child through a crisis. It is the same for relationships. Playing with your mateŝs hair, rubbing their hand, a soft kiss on the neck, a soft pat on the leg or giving a gentle back rub will make a huge difference in how your mate responds to you. When was the last time you walked up to your mate for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on their neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate way. There is a difference. The next time the two of you are sitting in the car, at the grocery story, or standing in line at the theater, quietly reach over and take their hand. Do not be surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the first time!

Surprise

If you and your mate have scheduled some time for a Friday night dinner, put together a surprise instead. For example, if your mate loves professional wrestling, buy some tickets near the front or if they like concerts, purchase the tickets ahead of time, getting the best seats possible. When Friday night comes around, insist on driving and head toward the location where the event is taking place. When asked where you are going, simply answer, œI have a surprise for you. I know you love professional wrestling so I purchased two great seats for tonightŝs performance,¯ or œI know we had planned on going to dinner, but I wanted to surprise you with something special. I purchased tickets to see one of your favorite groups in concert. The idea of you getting the tickets for something THEY like and then keeping it as a special surprise will touch the heart!

Monday, September 28, 2009

Start Over

When couples first get together, everything is new and exciting. They overlook the little annoying things the other person does. However, after time, the nagging starts, instead of hearing, œYou look beautiful,¯ they might hear œWhy are you wearing that shirt? If this sounds like your relationship, first, the two of you need to sit down and be honest that things have changed. Identify the things each other did in the beginning of the relationship that created the attraction in the first place. Then together, make a commitment to start over. The truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting the past, and then start over with the flirtation. Focus only on the special things your mate does and relearn to put the unimportant things aside. It will take some time so be patient.

Schedule Time

Spending quality time together is crucial. This time can be with friends, dining out, attending a sporting event, or cuddling together while watching a favorite movie. The activity is not what is important but the fact that you are together, doing something that you both enjoy. People have extremely busy schedules and between work, family, the home, errands, and everything else going on, finding time for your mate can be difficult. Just as you would schedule a meeting on your calendar, show some courtesy in the relationship by scheduling time with each other. Once the plan is in place, no backing out unless you have some life and death emergency.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Memory and Success: How to Create Success by Understanding Memory

Remember that old familiar saying, "Out of sight, out of mind?" and the opposite saying, "Familiarity breeds contempt?" Well, in this modern world of online social networking and building a powerfully successful online business, it seems that the first saying holds the most relevance. So many people and businesses are vying for attention, clamoring to grab their piece of the money pie that is constantly being dangled by super online marketers.

On the web, in the social networking world, familiarity breeds income and often unimaginable success. Opportunities to participate in high paying joint ventures, affiliate marketing, speaking engagements, high priced consultation fees, expensive products and programs. The more familiar you become, the more likely you will be to receive lots of residual income, even when you are on vacation, enjolying time with your family and friends, participating in some leisure activity, or even sleeping.

One key to the success of the super marketers is that they have mastered the minds of others by knowing something about memory, about the way the mind works and the way people remember. Research has indicated that there are five basic keys to help you create such an onlne presence that people can't help but remember you. Apply these simple concepts and you may be amazed at the results in your business and in your life.

--The first event that happens is the most easily remembered. Be the first to present a concept, a type of product, an image, an emotion - or - present an old item in a new way.

--Repetition, repetition, repetition. Repeat your offer, your product, your advice, your solution - over and over and over again. Create blogs, articles, videos, more blogs, more videos. Send emails, enroll people in your free teleseminars, give free ebooks, free bonus reports, invite your prospects to an event, interview another well known entrepeneur, get interviewed on blogtalkradio, send more emails, create more articles, videos, blogs, etc., etc. etc. Put yourself out there on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, YouTube, and hundreds of other sites. And don't stop keeping your material fresh and your presence alive online.

--Be unusual, unique, clever, different, even strange. Novelty, surprise and even shock bring attention. Grab people's attention. Make sure that you do not appear ordinary. Make sure you stand out. Create a cooky video, an eye catching logo, a shocking headline.

--Be personal. Treat all your online communications as if you are talking to a close, intimate, trusted friend. Share yourself authentically. Sound real, sensitive, knowledgeable and caring. Don't be afraid to show your insecurities or flaws. In fact, freely reveal your flaws so that people feel that you are like them and they think they can trust you.

--Send another announcement, email blast, link - TODAY. If you did it yesterday, great. But do it again today. People remember things that happened most recently. Be continually current. Put yourself in the news NOW

To build a successful business and then to maintain your success, follow the above simple rules of memory. Get people to know, like and trust you and then put yourself right in front of them in as many ways and as frequently as you can. And if you did it yesterday, do it again today.

http://sta.rtup.biz/profiles/blogs/memory-and-success-how-to

Friday, September 11, 2009

Face your Weaknesses

The best way to get better at anything and to be successful is to face the weaknesses we all possess. Everyone has weaknesses and in order to be better, think clear, act appropriately, and succeed, you have to identify the areas you need to improve on and then take action to turn your weaknesses into strengths.

There is no better gratification than being successful. Accept that you are in for some hard work but the results will be incredible. Use these tips as guidelines and step outside the box. Take action and succeed!

Monday, August 31, 2009

Improve Efficiency

You will want to develop your potential to its fullest. The more efficient you can become the better job you will do. Be efficient with your time by not procrastinating and efficient with your effort by staying focused.

Have Balance in your Life

Imagine yourself on a canoe with another person. The day is beautiful, sunny, and warm. The two of you are floating along without a care in the world. Suddenly, ripples of water start rocking the canoe and without proper balance, both of you, along with all your belongings, are thrown into the cold water. It is the same when you strive for success. You have to find balance not only for yourself but also for others around you. Balance means providing time away from work for pleasure, working extra hours when required, knowing when a new direction is required, etc.

Have Fun

When people start into the process of being successful, whether for personal growth or starting a business, they may start by incorporating fun, but within a very short time, they realize it is hard work and the fun simply falls by the wayside. If you look at some of the most successful people in the world such as Sam Walton, Oprah Winphrey, or Ross Perot, you will find common threads that run between all of them. First, they started with nothing; second, they are all multi-millionaires many times over, and third, they have fun. They enjoy life, the people around them, and even find enjoyment in the challenges. This one element is often forgotten. This is a crucial element for success and should be a part of your plan.

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Be Nice

Study after study has shown that people with pleasing personalities have an easier time reaching success. Now only are they more levelheaded in handling the business but they also draw people around them that are eager and willing to help. In fact, in addition to being pleasing, be polite, show true interest, and have a great sense of humor.

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Guard your Emotions

Keeping emotions in check is not always an easy task. You will have times of disappointment that will require you to react with integrity. You may feel like crying and feel as though your world has just ended. Keep telling yourself that it has not ended and you will just have to make some adjustments in your plan. Never allow anger to be a response. You never know the trickle down effect of that anger and how it could permanently damage your reputation.

Break Bad Habits

Habits, regardless of size or nature, can be exceptionally difficult to break. This will take a lot of effort but you can do it. Unfortunately, poor habits can be the one aspect of your behavior that could be the obstacle to your success. If you have a habit of sniffling or chewing your nails when you get nervous or saying demeaning or offensive things as a way of trying to control, to be successful, whether on a personal or business level, you have to stop.

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Timing is Everything

You have probably heard it before “ timing is everything. Especially when it comes to opening a business, there is a right and a wrong time to start a business. This would be extremely important if your business has cycles or is seasonal. For example, if you are starting a business to do landscaping, the winter months when snow is on the ground is not the right time. You can be working toward your Business Plan, marketing ideas, finding investors, if required, etc., during those cold months, but you certainly would not want to open your doors for the first time in the heart of winter.

Keep it Lean

Start-up businesses do not have room for œdead¯ weight. As an example, when first starting out, if you need some assistance, rather then hiring a permanent employee that will involve salary, insurance, other benefits, etc., consider a temporary employee until the business grows. Keep improving the bottom line before you start adding on more expenses to your business.

Get the Word Out

If your success is focused on a business, when you get ready to open your doors, make sure you get the message out. This will include marketing promotions, advertising, sending out a press release, etc. The more people know about your business, the better chance of you have of reaching success.

Saturday, August 15, 2009

Plan your Costs

Unbelievably, there are thousands of entrepreneurs that start a business without the foggiest idea of what their costs are going to be. Either there is an estimation that is way overstated or understated. From the very beginning, you need to have a strong handle on knowing what you will need to get your business started and keep it running. Additionally, you need to have projections for your future success. Know your numbers and make sure they are accurate.

Believe

Not only do you need to believe in the product or service you are building to success, you also need to believe in you. Your confidence is what will get you through the difficult challenges and build credibility with your customers.

Know your Customers

You should know, really know, your customers, especially your top ten. Find out what they like and dislike. What other products or services would be of value to them? These very relationships are what will keep your business going. It is crucial to consider your customerŝs desires all of the time.

Sunday, August 09, 2009

Economic Value

Economic value defines your income. Considering your talent, also look at things that can help create economic value. These types of goals have better chance of being successful and lasting. Is there something in your community that could bring about more revenue? As an example, do you live in a smaller town where there are no fast food restaurants, causing people to drive miles outside of your town for a cheeseburger and shake? If so, perhaps opening a small fast food restaurant would be a great option. You could have the success of running your own business while bringing something to your community.

economic value

Want Versus Need

When you strive for success, do it because you want it, not because you need it. When you want something, it brings about intention, desire, and action. However, when you need something, it will lead to pain, stress, and frustration.

Be Independent

Do not be afraid to go for what you know is the right thing for you. Being independent allows you to take control over your destiny and emotional state. Stand firm in what you believe and do not allow other people to determine how you feel or what you believe in.

Thursday, August 06, 2009

I have missed more than 9000 shots

Today I start with the thought I found on Nervingas Žydas blog.

I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot... and missed. And I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why... I succeed."

Michael Jordan

Loser is the one who stops after some failures, leaders are those who are not afraid to fail.

And the next though from series of success tips is:

Identify Procrastinations

If you have a problem with procrastination, make a list of the things you constantly put on hold. This will help you identify your poor patterns and make the appropriate adjustments. Local colleges often have improvement courses regarding making better decisions and procrastination. Locate a class that would help you with this kind of challenge.

Wednesday, August 05, 2009

How to overcome self pity while increasing your love & compassion

Imagine what life would be like if you learned how to utilise your self-pitying states of mind by transforming them into powerful resources instead.

Could this be possible?

So called negative states of mind such as loneliness, frustration and despair are neutralised, changed or eliminated with many of the current psychological models.

While these methods can get useful results the whole picture becomes more interesting when we consider what many spiritual traditions have often claimed:

Our suffering actually contains within it an incredible opportunity for growth!

The fact that we are deeply familiar with states of suffering enables us to generate the most noble of virtuous minds such as love and compassion.

What this implies is that with the correct know-how we can replace our habitual patterns of self-pity with minds of love and compassion.

The secret of this approach is actually really simple, yet incredibly profound.

To experience a feeling of love/compassion rather than retched self-pity we simply switch the object of cherishing.

With self-pity we are obsessively cherishing our self: eg) "Poor me, me, me, I'm so lonely" etc.

If we were to switch the object of cherishing to another person we have affection for, and who probably experiences similar and worse feelings, it would enable us to generate a feeling of compassion.

A much more positive state of mind!

Below then is a complete strategy for 're-programming' our thought patterns.

A Strategy for Overcoming Self-pity

1. When you're feeling sorry for yourself what does that feel like? Notice the negative feelings in your body.

2. As you experience those feelings what would you name them? eg) loneliness, frustration, worthlessness

It's ok if you have no name for the feelings.

3. Imagine seeing yourself over there. Simply observe that you suffering and allow a feeling of love and compassion to arise.

Be gentle with yourself. Remember in essence we are pure, virtually limitless, potential and the delusions and problems we experience are like waves on an ocean. They are impermanent. They cannot not change!

3. Now think of loved ones who probably experience similar feelings and worse. (It's important that you actually choose people you have an emotional connection with. Somebody you're close too and have affection for.)

4. As you picture them in front, with that image of yourself, notice the growing feeling of love & compassion arising...

5. Breath with this feeling for a minute or three. You may begin to notice how you soften. Enjoy the warmth and softening of your heart centre.

Build Bridges of Love & Compassion into the Future

To get this new strategy "wired-in" so it becomes an automatic habit we just need to do a few quick rehearsals in our mind.

So think of situations in the future where it's likely you would experience self-pity.

And notice what the first thing you would see or hear before the feelings of self-pity start up?

As you allow those feelings to arise go through the procedure from step 1.

Doing this rehearsal with a few situations, in different contexts, will enable your unconscious to generalise the new strategy.

What this means is that, in the future, as soon as feelings of self-pity begin to arise in whatever context, the new strategy will trigger and you will then have the freedom to
choose to experience feelings of love and compassion instead.

The choice is now in your hands.

Colin G Smith, nlptoolbox.com

Monday, August 03, 2009

Paint a Picture

A great way to keep working toward your goal is to see it. If you want to open a computer store, find a picture or article about Bill Gates when he first got started. If your success is to lose weight, go to Diets.com or Slimfast.com and print off a before and after picture of someone that has a similar body type to yourself. Perhaps your goal is to redecorate your bedroom. Again, locate before and after pictures on the Internet of decorated rooms. Seeing is believing!

Develop Uniformity

At first, this may be a little challenging but strive to keep things on an even keel. This will keep your efforts and focus from going up and down. The more you can stay the course the quicker you will reach your goal to success.

Just Do It

Okay, so Nike coined that phrase but it is so accurate. Quit putting things off and just do it. If you want it bad enough, go for it!

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Understand your Goal

A great challenge is to prove to yourself that you can do it. One of the ways to prove this to you is to take on responsibility. If your goal for success involves opening a restaurant, work in a restaurant as a server to get a perspective of all the jobs involved to make the restaurant a success. Understand the entire business from the ground up.

Raise your Standards

You may think you are working your tail off and you probably are. Try raising the bar just a little bit. Always expect the best from yourself. Do not beat yourself up if you do not always hit 100% but increase your standards and strive for more.

Unconscious Power

The unconscious mind is a very powerful tool. Take advantage of this and each night before heading off to bed, take some time to pose questions to yourself and then allow your mind to hash them out while you sleep. In addition, mediate in whatever way you find relaxing before going to bed to clear your mind from clutter and allow the subconscious mind to go to work.

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Be Logical

Okay, you may be thinking that logic itself is logical. However, being logic in many cases means having some level of analytical ability. Regardless of the way you think, find the logic in it. This will help you think and plan clearly and honestly.

Give 100% Effort

If you are going to succeed, you have to be able to get through tough times. You will have to rise to challenges and not quit. You have to plan to go the extra mile and make personal sacrifices. Succeeding means giving 100% effort. Stay focused while keeping your performance on a consistent basis.

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Take Classes

Take some classes at college where you can get a certification. Enhancing yourself on a personal level will boost everything about you, making you feel better, about the person you are. When you feel better, you achieve more. This is a great time to obtain your certification in CPR, First Aid, a computer class, or some other outside interest you have.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Offer a Guarantee

If you have created a business that offers either products or services, in order to get and keep customers coming back, they have to know that you stand behind what you offer. Providing a guarantee will help your business grow and reach the highest level of success.

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Get Excited

Do you remember your first trip to see a professional baseball game and how exciting it was to see the thousands of people cheering, enjoying the mouthwatering smell of popcorn and hot dogs, and hoping that you might get a chance to catch a foul ball? Perhaps you can remember your first prom, being excited that the right boy asked you to the dance, shopping for the perfect glamour dress, and buying your date a corsage. You need to be excited about your venture for success. Remember some of the things that brought true excitement to your heart when you were growing up and add that same excitement to your grownup life.

Expand your Mind

Whatever your idea of success, take it one-step further. Stretch your mind and reach just one-step higher than you thought you could reach. If you were going to open an ice cream store, offering 30 flavors, go one more step and make it 31. Okay, you get the idea.

Be a Strong Leader

Learn to be a good leader and a good mentor. Enjoy making a difference and in guiding others to achieve their potential as well. Help people reach to new horizons.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Learn How to Delegate

As you start getting closer to your goal of success, you will find that there are many more things to do than hours in the day. If going into business, consider hiring someone; even part-time or on a freelance basis to help take some of your load. If your success is more on a personal basis, have family or friends pitch in to help you get things done. You will be amazed at how much this will help ease the situation and allow you the proper amount of time to focus on the things that need your full attention.

Be a Problem Solver

Rather than stew over things or let stress overtake you, find ways to become a problem solver. Look at ways that you might find new customers, increase productivity, or resolve issues.

Conduct Research

It is important to know what you are getting into. First, you will want to conduct research as far as the business, industry, or interest associated with your particular success. Second, the research will help you stay up to date on trends, which may or may not require you to make adjustments in your own goal. For example, if you were interested in opening a particular business focusing on a specific technology and that technology took a turn to another direction, new advancements, you may need to change the direction you were going for your own business. Unless you kept up on research, you would not know when a change was needed and therefore, would end up building a business already headed for failure.

Monday, July 20, 2009

Set Realistic Goals

People wanting to be successful often want overnight results. Unfortunately, that is not going to happen. You need to do an analysis to determine a realistic amount of time it will take to reach your specific success. As you go through your Business Plan you may find times that dates have to adjusted but even if there are changes, keep it realistic. Otherwise, you will become frustrated and quit!

Talk About It

Talking about your goals for success not only keeps it in the front of your mind but also keeps up your excitement level. In addition, it adds in an element of accountability. Think about it, you go around telling everyone that you are going to be a masseuse, those people are going to be expecting, and anxious to see you succeed. By talking about your goals, you are creating a motivational system “ a system of accountability.

Don''t Make Quick Decisions

When things in your plan need to change, unless necessary, do not make quick decisions. Just as it took time to plan in the beginning, it will take time to change. You want to make sure you are making the right decisions when changes come up. Do your research just as you did in the beginning and then make educated choices.

Avoid Stress

When you strive to be successful, stress is a natural part of the process. Do everything you can to avoid stress. Adding in unnecessary stress into the equation will take focus away from accomplishing your goals. You can listen to relaxing tapes, get a professional massage, take a walk, or whatever helps you >to relax. When you start feeling overwhelmed, stop, change direction, and avoid stress. The only thing stress accomplishes is draining your think power and creativity.

Friday, July 17, 2009

Apply What You Learn

Since you will be setting milestones as you reach for your success, apply what
you have learned through each phase of the process. Doing is a much more
powerful tool than simply reading or watching.

Study Time

No matter what your goal for success, you should set aside some time to study.
If you want to be a successful hair stylist, study different styles, colors, and
trends. If you want to be a veterinarian, study animals. Whatever your
success, take time to read, research, and ask many questions. You should also
consider volunteering at the local beauty school or hair salon or your
veterinarian’s office. Ask if you can follow them around for a day or two and
without getting in the way, observe, and ask questions.

study time

Provide Yourself Time

You need to be sure to allow yourself some time just for pleasure. Being
successful is hard work so to avoid burnout; you need to treat yourself to a night out or just time to sit back, watch TV, and do absolutely nothing once in
awhile.

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Take Notes

How many times have you had an idea either through a dream, while doing the dishes, or sitting at your desk, and have thought that as soon as you have time, you will make a note of it. When that free time rolls around, you have forgotten some or all of that great idea. Keep a journal or notepad handy at all times. When you have an idea, write it down immediately.

Take care of Yourself

Being successful means taking care of you, both physically and emotionally. You will need to have energy, focus, and rest. In turn, this will help you concentrate and put in the hours required to be successful. Without taking proper care of yourself, you will end up struggling and your business could feel the effects.

Take Good Notes

Whether you are at a seminar, a casual meeting, or notice something special in the news, take good, comprehensive notes. This is not always a natural skill but something that has to be acquired. You want to pay attention to the emphasis being made capture it. Even if there are materials being handed out, >if there is something that you feel you should capture separately, do it. Good notes will help you learn better and provide additional reference points.

Participate

If attending seminars or lectures that will help you get ahead, if there is the opportunity, participate by asking questions or making valid points. Participation is a great way to remember what is being taught.

Be Serious

Take your efforts to success seriously. Success is a serious thing and it takes serious dedication. You have to have the mindset that this is not going to be all play, at least not in the beginning.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Location, Location, Location

If you are planning to open a business, you have probably already heard how important the right location is in order to be successful. Do not settle for any location as a means of getting the doors of your business open. Instead, take the appropriate amount of time and find the right location. This will be one of the best decisions you can make. It would be far better to delay your opening a month in order to secure the right location than to open early in the wrong location!

Good Habits

Being successful, whether personal or business requires good habits. It is just like trying to do well in school. You have to have good study habits in order to do well on tests. It is the same for the business world. You need to do your homework. Read the newspaper, scout out opportunities, and take time each day to dedicate specifically to your endeavor.

Be Open to Improvement

Sometimes, people get into the habit of thinking they have the answers needed. You need to accept that you do not have all the answers and more importantly, be open to recommendations from other people. That does not mean you have to agree or even follow those suggestions, but it does mean to listen. You never know when someone will have an idea that will make things easier and more functional, ultimately helping you arrive at your goal more efficiently.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Get out of Debt

Take time to get any debts paid off, especially credit card debts that will cost you a fortune in interest. This is especially important if you will be seeking funding as a part of your particular success. You want to ensure that your records and credit are clean if you need to make a presentation before an investor, asking for money.

Read about your dreams

Stay current on the industry news that your goal falls in. Learn about current trends, company failures or successes, new ideas; whatever information you can find. For example, if you have decided to open a retail store and have a great idea and a real passion for your goal, read about that specific type of store, location, potential revenue, downfalls, everything. This information will be a part of your business plan and is crucial.

Community involved with your community

Regardless of what your goal for success is, get involved with your community. First, get involved with town meetings, the local Chamber of Commerce, and attend community functions. You will be amazed at the opportunities for support, business ideas, and financing available right there in your own neighborhood.

Record Keeping

Always keep your records up to date. This would include contact information, investor information, Business Plans, attorney information, accounting, everything you touch regarding your goal. In addition, keep your files on your computer backed up and current. First, you never know when you are going to be asked for a specific document and need to provide quick turn-around.

Second, computers do crash and it would be a disaster if all of your information were suddenly gone.

Monday, July 13, 2009

Collaborate with Others

More than likely, you will reach various times when you do not have the appropriate expertise to accomplish something. This is the time collaboration and/or networking is valuable. These relationships can help you answer questions, provide guidance, and provide the ongoing support and encouragement you will need.

Customer Relations

Keep your line of communication open with your customers. If they have a problem, show them the deserved respect and resolve the issue quickly. Make occasional phone calls to see if they have any needs. This will let your customers know that you are there for them and care about their business. This relationship is what is going to keep you on the road to success. After all, the customer is your link between failure and success.

Repositioning and Reflection

On occasion, reflect on what you have accomplished as well as your open milestones and ensure you are still heading in the right direction. Repositioning along the way to success is perfectly normal and to be expected. You may have been struggling with something specific. Rather than continue battling this issue, reflect on what has not been working, and reposition yourself so you do not have to keep battling the same things repeatedly.

Accept Responsibility

You and you alone are responsible for your success. While you will have help in many instances, the bottom line is that you are responsible. You need to be surrounded by the right people, working with the right investors, going about meeting your success in the right way. It is you that will make the choices and therefore, your responsibility to make the right choices. In other words, your desire for success must always be greater that any obstacle that stands in your way.

Friday, July 10, 2009

Make the Process and Adventure

You should look at every angle of your journey as an exciting adventure. When you think of your childhood years, you loved investigating the unknown. Carry this with you as you strive toward success. Anticipate the excitement of each accomplishment ā€“ make it a real adventure.

Don't Neglect Things

Especially when things are small and do not appear to have a major impact on the big picture, you need to ensure you follow through and complete your tasks. Those little things can quickly add up to a big mess if not taken care of in a timely and efficient manner.

Offer Praise

If you have people helping you out, whether on a volunteer basis or a full-time employee, always offer praise. These people are an important part of your success and by providing praise and support; in return, they will show dedication and work hard to help you reach your goal.

Set Daily Goals

In order to visualize your accomplishments and stay encouraged, you need to set daily goals. These goals can be as simply as a follow up phone call or a written letter to an investor. Whatever the task is, get it done. In addition to keeping the process for your success on track, it will help you to feel like you are making accomplishments, pushing you closer and closer to the success.

Thursday, July 09, 2009

Keep a Journal

As you work hard to reach success, regardless of what you consider that success to be, you need to be able to see your accomplishments. Start a journal and track every thing you have conquered. When you feel discouraged or frustrated, reflect on what you have achieved, and rejuvenate yourself.

Rewards

When children do something great, parents will reward them with something nice, whether a kind word of encouragement or a new toy. When people do well in their job, they get raises. As you surpass your milestones, reward yourself. Treat yourself to something nice ā€“ a new dress, a new fishing pole, whatever you like, be sure to award yourself for a job well done.

Watch for Scams

Whether you are just starting out or expanding an existing business, unfortunately, there are thousands of people waiting to defraud you out of money. If something appears too good to be true “ IT IS! Always conduct thorough research and never jump into opportunities that look perfect. If someone becomes pushy, wanting you to make a quick decision on any type of investment, do not walk away “ RUN away!

Focus on the Big Picture

As you make your way toward success, you will be challenged with big obstacles as well as small obstacles. Pick your battles wisely. While you need to resolve the small issues, do not dwell on them and lose precious time and energy when you should be focusing on the bigger picture. In other words, do not allow the menial things to clutter your mind and monopolize your time. 139. Make the Best of Each Day

Try to live every day as though it were your last. Make the most of every day and accomplish something. Even if it is something small, every baby step adds up to a huge success in the end.

Monday, July 06, 2009

The Picture re-Frame

1. Think of a situation where you want to change your feelings. You want to have more choice in how to respond.

2. Now picture that situation. What do you see?

3. If you haven't already, step outside of the picture and push the picture off over there so that you can see yourself in it.

The Picture re-Frame

4. Now look at that image and become aware of any new insights and understandings from this new perspective.

5. What would happen if you were to imagine placing a wooden frame around that picture?

6. Allow your unconscious or your imagination or your creative part or your 'other than conscious resources' to try out other frames.

What about a plastic frame. Try changing the colour of the frames. Put the picture in an oval frame.

What would a comedic frame look like? A Sexy frame? A frame of excellence? Or a learning frame?

And what would happen if you were to place a light on top of the picture frame. Would it literally 'shed new light on things'?

7. One more little experiment: Imagine, whilst looking at the picture, feeling the texture of the frame. What does the frame feel like? Now soften the frame. Try a Balsa wood frame. Or how about a silly putty frame!

Good Time / Resource Management

Being successful also means keeping to a schedule. In addition, you need to learn how much is too much. Good time and resource management will help you ensure that you use your time wisely and that you are not adding third portions onto a plate still overflowing with seconds.

Make Opportunities

Rather than wait for opportunity to find you, you need to find opportunities. This might be watching for business opportunities in the paper regarding small businesses being sold, great real estate opportunities, and investments with stocks, bonds, or mutual funds, taking a talent and turning it into an entrepreneurial adventure. People that have reached financial status will tell you that they look for ways to seize opportunities, not wait for opportunities to come knocking on their door because it will not happen that way.

Attitude

Putting yourself in the right attitude for success should be at the top of your list. Staying positive and surrounding yourself with friends, that share a positive attitude will help you succeed. Do not allow negative thoughts to slip into your mind. Attend motivational seminars and find ways to enjoy life. A good attitude will allow you to turn any bad situation into a learning experience. You have heard the saying, “The glass is either half-full or half-empty.” You need to adopt the attitude that life is half-full. The result is that you will feel better, have more energy, and have a much higher opportunity for success.

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Be Thankful

You need to be thankful for not only your accomplishments but also your failures. Having a grateful attitude is important. It will help you stay humble, which in turn, will help you continue striving for the ultimate in success.

Sunday, July 05, 2009

Don’t Settle

If you have a goal of becoming a world-famous chef and you know you have both desire and skill, do not just settle to become a short order cook at your local family-style restaurant. While that may be good training ground, do not allow yourself to lose sight of your ultimate goal.

No Excuses

Many famous actors, music artists, inventors, etc., had special challenges ranging from learning disabilities to physical disabilities. Take Beethoven for example. He was born deaf yet he went on to be one of the world’s greatest composers or Joni Erickson who was paralyzed from the neck down yet she learned to paint with her mouth. Today, her paintings are famous around the world and worth millions. If you are faced with a special challenge of your own, while you may have to adjust things from time to time, do not use excuses. If you want something bad enough, there is a way!

Getting Past Fear of Failure

Being afraid of failure is a normal emotion for every person on the planet. How you get past that fear is the determining factor between failing and succeeding. You can do that by setting realistic goals and then examining those goals on occasion to do any necessary realignment. Above all, believe in yourself and the desire burning within.

strong>Patience and Dues

Succeeding takes time. A goal worth setting will take time to achieve. Be patient with yourself, the people around you, and the process it takes to become successful, also referred to as “paying your dues.” Just like the chef scenario, it takes time to be a master chef. Pay your dues by learning and working your way up the ladder to success.

Friday, July 03, 2009

Be Proactive

While it may take time to learn how to identify ways to avoid obstacles or failures, get into the habit of tackling problems before they arise. This will help you avoid wasting precious time on your road to success.

Stay Motivated

When striving for the big goal of success, it is critical to stay motivated. Find inspiring and motivational tapes, seminars, books, movies; whatever you are able to get your hands on. When you start to feel a little down and out and doubt starts to creep in, turn to these motivational tools to help you keep on track. A few excellent motivators include Tony Robbins, Norman Vincent Peale, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, and Les Brown.

Give Yourself a Break

While being determined is important, do not be so hard on yourself that you become critical of every move you make. Give yourself some room to make mistakes and be flexible with you. That does not mean you can miss goals but it does mean that if you do, you find out how to avoid that from happening again and then get back to business.

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Be Passionate

Fall in love with what your success. Okay, although that sounds funny, you need to have an intimate passion with your interest. You can do this regardless of what your success is. By having passion for what you are doing and driving toward, you will automatically put more effort into it. Passion is a good thing as long as it does not become an obsession.

Thursday, July 02, 2009

Toxic Poisoning

No, we are not talking about actual poison but toxic people that can poison. Unfortunately, it would be great if close friends or co-workers could share in your success but all too often, there will be someone who is either dealing with the green monsterā of jealousy or has a case of theI knew that syndrome. If you are serious about reaching your goal and being successful, you will need to rid your life of these people. While you may not be able to get them out of your life completely, you should avoid them as best as possible. If this is a person, you see every day, keep your goals to yourself, and avoid that specific subject.

Be a Good Listener

To succeed, you need to learn how to listen first. Pay attention to other people who have enjoyed successes in their life, attend seminars given by people that can motivate and encourage, or be open to hearing that a particular idea is not a good one. Good listening takes time to learn but in the end, it will be your greatest tool.

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Birds of a Feather

If you have a goal of being a best-selling author, find friends and mentors who either have achieved that same goal or are also pursuing a successful writing career. It is important to surround yourself with people that can associate with your goal and passion, people who understand the burning desire to succeed and can encourage when you meet with disappointments.

Little Red Engine

Do you remember the story of the caboose that was desperately trying to make it over a very large hill? He kept telling himself repeatedly, œI think I can, I think I can. When you start feeling overwhelmed or defeated, tell yourself aloud these same words. While it may seem a little awkward at first, stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself, œI think I can, I think I can. You might even change the words to, œI know I can!

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

15. Have Courage

Depending on what your specific success is, it may take courage to arrive at your desired destination. For example, if you have a dream of being a writer and to you, that is success, but according to your long line of family members who have all gone on to be doctors, the only success in their minds is if you follow down the medical path. This means you will have to have courage to stand up for what you believe and desire to do, even if it means disappointing family.

16. Be Excited to Learn

Referring back to the analogy of Edison, when asked about his failures by a young boy, Edison commented, “Young man, I didn’t fail 9,999 times, I discovered 9,999 ways not to invent the light bulb.” As you work toward your specific success, always enjoy opportunities to learn, even if it takes longer than you think it should.

17. Share your Success

Although this may be more at the end of the process, it is important. When you finally do reach your success, use your experience to teach, guide, and mentor others so that they too might succeed.

18. Seek Input

Whatever your idea of success, conduct a “sanity check” throughout the process of reaching your goal. This should be done with someone you trust and who is themselves successful. Ask them to provide honest feedback about your success and as you move through different milestones, bounce concerns or new ideas off them to help keep you on the right track.

Monday, June 29, 2009

10-12 tips for achieving success

10. Have a Plan

Even if it is flimsy to begin with, you should construct a plan to include goal, milestones, deliverables such as contracts, business plans, etc., and accomplishments. This will provide you with a visual as to what you are working for, what milestones you have successfully met, and where you need to do better.

11. Accept Responsibility

You need to accept responsibility if you make a bad decision or fall behind in your plan. Let us say that you have set some firm milestones that need to be accomplished in order for you to move to the next step. However, you got tired of working hard and took some time to play, which is fine as long as it does not affect your goals. Now months have passed and you are way behind schedule. This delay has closed several doors of opportunities. Who is to blame?

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12. Be Happy

A positive mind and happy, upbeat attitude will help you succeed. It has been proven in many studies that a person living in a happy state generally gets much further in just about everything they do. This relates to attitude. Just as bad attitude can pull you down, good attitude and a happy, healthy mind will help you meet your objectives.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

7-9 tips for

7. Stop the Complaining

You might think there is no correlation between complaining and success when in fact there is a connection. When you are spending time complaining about the obstacles you are facing, you are wasting so much time being negative that you are actually loosing chances to move forward. Instead of thinking of challenges as problems, think of them as opportunities.

8. Focus on Something you Like

To increase your chance of succeeding, you should concentrate your efforts on something you enjoy. When you start out, make a list of everything you find interesting. Then in a second column, write down the skills you have in relation to each of those items. This will help you narrow choices down based on interest and skill, which gets you started in the right direction for success.

9. Change your Circumstances

You have a choice in life to accept your position or change it. If you choose to plug along in life hoping that something will change for the better, you will not get very far. Always remember that when it comes to changing your circumstances, you can ā€“ you have that power. As an example, women who are in abusive situations often feel controlled and powerless to get out of the situation. They have the same choice of changing their circumstances as you do. If your circumstances lower the chances of success, you need to change them.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

4-6 tips how to achieve success

4. Business Plan

Create a Business Plan as your very first step if you are planning to build a business. Whether you will be searching for investors or not, this plan will be the blueprint to your success. The Business Plan will consist of market trends, financial planning, competitive analysis, exit strategies, marketing and promotional options, everything about your goal. When going before an investor, you will be required to have a Business Plan. This is by far the most important document of all. If your success were something personal, you would not need to create a Business Plan although a project plan would be a good option to allow you to keep track of everything involving your goal.

5. Don’t Give Up

To reach success, you have to persevere. Even Thomas Edison had to learn this. When he was creating the incandescent light bulb, it took him more than 10,000 times to get it right. Keep striving even when it becomes challenging.

6. Have an Unstoppable Attitude
You need to have determination. With good intentions, there may be a close friend or family member that feels it would be better if you focused your attention in

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

1-3 Ways To Create Huge Success In Life and Business

1. Realize your Potential

In order to succeed at anything, you need to see that you have the potential to reach your goals. For example, if you want to be a recording artist but have no singing ability, having success in this field is not likely. However, if you love working on cars and have a real talent for fixing engines and transmissions, and to you, success would mean working for NASCAR, you have potential to learn and achieve that success.

2. Don’t Look Back.

Everyone has failures or mistakes from the past. To have success, you need to learn from your past and value those difficult lessons but do not every dwell on the past. Simply move forward and make better, more educated decisions from the lessons learned.

3. Dare to Dream

To succeed, you need to have dreams and aspirations. Be honest with yourself as to what you want out of life and what you want to give of your life. Allow your mind to dream and think big.

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Why We Want You To Be Rich

Did you know Network Marketing has produced phenomenal results?

Donald Tumpt and Robert Kiyosaki two multi millionaires and leaders of multi level marketings systems.

They are sharing with me all the reasons I would fail. I can do it anyway, found success and live a life most people only choose to dream about.

What's great about Network Marketing is that anyone can make as much money as they like...regardless of their business experience, financial situation or education! Network Marketing provides systems, leadership and the ability to work from home.

Network Marketing has provided an opportunity for average people like me to achieve extraordinary financial results and have total control in their life.

There are a lot of opinions about MLM and most of them are negative, you can choose if it is for you, but the fact is that leaders achieve here amazing riches.

You can listen to free audiobooks from these two leaders by registering on http://www.whywewantyoutoberich.com/ and learn a little bit more about.

First one is some rules from THINK BIG the book by Donald Trump

Another one from Kiyosaki where he is telling how he the average guy from Hawaii become millionaire and partner of even richer guy Donal Tump :

Monday, June 08, 2009

Does harder will guarantee success?

A small housefly was burning up the last of its energy in an attempt
to fly through the glass of the windowpane.

It's clear what the fly's strategy is: try harder.
He's staked his life on reaching his goal through raw effort and
persistence. But, it's not enough.

The fly is doomed. He will die in this room....

....but that's not the tragic part.

Across the room is a door standing open; through it, you can clearly
see the outdoors. If the fly wanted to, he could change strategy and
be free in less than 10 seconds.

In fact, it would be EASIER than what he's doing. He could be free
with only a FRACTION of the effort. It would be so easy.

Why doesn't he try another approach? Something dramatically different?
Where did it get the idea that trying harder will guarantee success?

No doubt it makes sense to the fly.

But, it doesn't matter. His hard work and blind effort will be his death.
He'll be a small corpse in an hour or so. Someone will dust him off the
windowsill later today.

Hey, has it ever occurred to you how many people are just like that fly?

It never occurs to them that the actions they're taking will never make
them successful. They just keep doing the same thing over and over
without ever realizing that they're spinning their wheels.

And -- just like the fly -- the solution is SO simple...and it's actually
LESS work than what you're currently doing.

Hey, are you finally serious about making a better life
for yourself?

From the email of Tony Rush

Thursday, June 04, 2009

Perfect way to mulf

You trying to think positive, to dream, but at the end everything you are doing is getting back to the problems and focusing on the failures. Isn't that the straight way to becoming a pessimist?
How many people get up in the morning just because they need to go to the toilet?

The fact is: There is nothing more subjective, than a subjective reality.

So if you are dreaming do it with all the bright colors, loud and energetic music. Feel the same as you were feeling in the happiest moments of your life.

Author Toni Morrison who get a noble prize said: if you want to fly, you have first to throw all the shit which is pulling you down away.

Always work, do something. Ask what exactly are you doing and what are you trying to achieve?
Always ask why ? Do not be afraid to ask why I didn't succeed? Why I am not rich? Why I do not have the relationships I want?

Wednesday, June 03, 2009

Do you make excuses?

Do you want to change something in your life?

Do you want more money?
More success?
More happiness?

If something in your life is not going as you want, you might be interested in this Tony Rush audio. This audio is to design to make you think!

All this stuff you might already knew before, but did you take the responsibility of your live? So if you suck today, that's the result of all the thing you did till today. If you are not realizing your potencials.

Saturday, May 09, 2009

Put a smile on your face

Smile cost nothing, but makes everybody so happy. Make them smile, and let them to feel special and you will become the best friend for them

Sunday, May 03, 2009

Do not waste the powers you have

I got the power to achieve anything I want. The problem is am I using it right?

Steve Pavlina gives some advices how to use, or not use your power:

Stop complaining - because all you do is just wasting you time. You better look for solution, not a complain
Self doubt - do the opposite, what would you do if you were 100% sure you will succeed in everything you will start doing and spending enought time on it?
Cowardice -
You generate fear when you send energy to what you don’t want — by thinking about it, dwelling on it, imagining it, etc.
Arguing - in most of the cases arguing is also wasting of time. May be you are right, may be your solution is better, but sometimes it is better to let other people to feel right and just make them happy. In long term relationship it could pay you back.
Asking permission - usually people are a little bit negative if you are trying to invent something new or trying to achieve more than they. You better ask for the challenge and constuctive critic but not for support and permision

Own your power!

Stop giving away your power — to other people, to your fears, to anything you don’t want. Use your power positively and creatively. Channel the tremendous energy inside of you to manifest your desires.

How to turn this theory in the practic? Next time you will face the problem, try to remember those models:

Complaining
Self doubt
Cowardice
Arguing
Asking permission

Try to use you power achieving the goal and not abusing them

PS: Steve gives us the free audio Peak Performance Paraliminal - Paul R. Scheele With Tom McCarthy

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Laws of Nature, or Lighthouse Principles

That there are Laws of Nature, or Lighthouse Principles that govern life of all creatures in the our planet.

We just might think we govern it. We may let our values govern our behavior, but the consequences of that behavior is governed by those Lighthouse Principles.

Why we are doing that we are doing? Not how determines the results we achieve.

I love saying:

We spend part of our life preparing to do something.
We spend other part of live trying to concentrate on that we are doing.
And we spend the biggest part of life doing the wrong things.

Have you tried to stop for a moment and think about it?

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

What are YOU becoming now and in the future?

Wouldn't you agree that making a change at the level of
our identity would give us the most useful and pervasive
changes?

For example you could decide to become a more creative
person or a better communicator. Or both?! Whatever you
choose, pick something that energises and inspires you.

Now one things for sure, we are going to experience many
problems simply because that's reality right?

Annoying work collegues, dealing with certain family
members, traffic jams, Eastenders etc.

Isn't it true though that our experience of problems
dissappear, when we have the correct mental attitude or
state of mind.

Problems are going to keep coming, it's inevitable. To
protect ourselves from feeling overwhlemed and crushed we
need to cultivate a powerful determination to overcome all
our delusions or bad thinking patterns/habits.

So as you think about that now what does the more determined
you look like? You can use this as your 'desired self image'
in the technique below that is from "The Half Seond Rule."

Automatically Swish Yourself into New Behaviour

(This is a very powerful process that enables you to get rid
of bad feelings and unwanted behaviour that results from the
bad feeling. It's useful for all kinds of things because it
're-directionalises' your mind. It re-programs your mind to
go away from the unwanted and head towards a more
resourceful, possibility filled future!

1. Identify Context: Pick a situation that induces
undesirable feelings inside of you? Where or when would you
like to behave differently than you do now? (Examples: An
interview, asking someone out, driving onto a freeway etc.)

2. Identify Cue Image: What do you see in the above
situation just before you start doing the behaviour you
don't like? Imagine actually being in the situation, seeing
through your own eyes. To help get the cue image it can be
useful to physically do what you do just before the unwanted
behaviour. (NOTE: The cue image can be an internal image
inside your mind or an external, realworld image.)

3. Create Outcome Picture: See yourself over there as you
would look if you had already accomplished the desired
change. Make this image really compelling. How would you
stand? What would your facial expression look like? If you
had made this change how would you see yourself differently?

4. Swish: Start by seeing the cue image, big and bright.
Next put a small dark image of the outcome picture in the
lower right corner. The small dark image will grow big and
bright and cover the cue image, which will get dim and
shrink away. It can be useful to say, 'Swissssshhhh' at the
same time! (NOTE: It is very important to do the actual
swish very fast for it to be effective: LESS THAN ONE
SECOND! You can repeat the process, steps 4 - 6 and go
faster each time until you have done it in less than 1/2 a
second.)

5. Blank Out Screen or open your eyes.

6. Repeat from step 4 again five times.

7. Test: Now try and picture the cue image again. If the
swish has been effective it will be hard to do as the
outcome picture will appear automatically!

TOP TIPS: The desired self-image in step 3 doesn't need to

be perfect. The question is, do you like it better?

Inspired by Colin Smith

Friday, March 27, 2009

How to choise the way of your life?

How many of you heard about Coaching?

Well in USA it is popular visit psychologist when you are facing the problems and look to you past. Found there some problems and solve them. But now there is new specialist who call them selves life trainers / couchers who gives you a look to you future and motivates you to take action by looking forward, not backward.

They gives you a vision which lets you to unlock your potentials and go for you dream. Sometime it is hard to take a decision to change your life, cause usually we do not like to leave our comfort zone. There is one exercise which lets you to make it easier.

For example you are willing to take an important decision and choose one of two ways. Take for a example one year period. Realize you this year has passed and how your life has changed within this period. What you have already achieved if chosen way 1 and way 2.

Then it is easier to decide when you see the green dot, which I associate with all the benefits, greats experience and good emotions I will get taking an action which will move me closer to my destiny.

If do not do anything I will be at the same line after a year and still be in the red position.

I hope you understand what I was trying to say to you and this point of view will help you making decisions. If NO, just leave a comment and I will answer you.

Monday, March 16, 2009

2012 - what you want to achieve till the end of the world

We are spending to much time preparing for better life and spend so little time to live.

What would you do if you knew that you will succeed in any work you will start?

What drives you so much, you can pay money for it?

Majority of people hate their jobs, but never quits. Why? Because we trying to live like others. We do not want to try something new. We are sitting in our comfort zone where we get our salary and do not need to care about the tomorrow.

But the most successful people have quit their job and tried to found their own way to their dreams and wealth. They started to build their live when they were only students.

Have you read the biography of Bill Gates? He has not finished university untill he was not a millionaire.
Richard Branson quit school and started his business of students newspapers.
Steve Jobs dropped out after only one semester.

So when you will start achieving your own dreams? If you are not trying to achieve yours, then somebody employs you and then you are helping them to achieve their goals.

Life is short. What would you do if you would have only a few years to live? Somebody believe you have time till 2012 december 12.

Friday, March 13, 2009

Biggest looser in the world

What is better:

get salary every month and be safe

or try to invest money and earn more. Of course there is
always risk and you will definitely loose, but at the end may be you
will find way to the wealth. You want to see the list of people who lost
18 billions dollar per year? Can you imagine how much it is
18.000.000.000? For example I live in Lithuania with 3 millions
citizens. So it's like every lithuanian lost 6000 LT per year. But dr.
Bill Gates is still richest person in the world in spite of loosing
such ammount of money.

THE BILLIONAIRES - top 5 richest people in the world on 2009 by Forbes magazine

William Gates III

Warren Buffett

Carlos Slim Helú

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